So if one does not wish to dance with our all-too-friendly friendly neighbourhood stalker, that person is obliged to a) feed his obsession, b) pre-book partners for an entire evening well in advance, or c) never dance again? This doesn't seem right to me.
In the days of Jane Austen, people only danced with their same social class, formal events were invitation-only & closed to the public and anyone deemed inappropriate was blocked at the gates of the estate or at least the manor door by the servants. We lack almost all of the features these days so I think we need to update our rules just a little.
Come to think of it, how does Emily Post recommend one deal with stalkers and/or sociopaths in general? I'm sure she has a suitable way of dispatching a repeated unwanted advance.
Have none of us ever been approached in a bar by someone we just didn't want to be with, carnally or otherwise? I know how I'd politely decline in such a circumstance, but would-be mating rituals (and shooting them down) are more elaborate and have less time pressure --presuming it isn't after last-call.
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Date: 2006-02-24 03:18 pm (UTC)In the days of Jane Austen, people only danced with their same social class, formal events were invitation-only & closed to the public and anyone deemed inappropriate was blocked at the gates of the estate or at least the manor door by the servants. We lack almost all of the features these days so I think we need to update our rules just a little.
Come to think of it, how does Emily Post recommend one deal with stalkers and/or sociopaths in general? I'm sure she has a suitable way of dispatching a repeated unwanted advance.
Have none of us ever been approached in a bar by someone we just didn't want to be with, carnally or otherwise? I know how I'd politely decline in such a circumstance, but would-be mating rituals (and shooting them down) are more elaborate and have less time pressure --presuming it isn't after last-call.